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How to Deal with People to Get What You Want
People communicate with each other in various ways for a lot of
reasons. And one of these reasons is when you need something from
someone. For people in business, this can either be in the form of
products or services. You may want to sell a product while the other
party must find your product useful for his intention. You may want to
offer your services while the other party must be satisfied with the
services you render according to his needs. In short, the way to get
somebody or anybody to do what you want is to make them want to do it.
To get something you want through intimidation or violence is to invite
trouble. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful methods
because the results are undesirable and at times disastrous. Imagine if
you force an employee to take a leave of absence for having apparently
violated a company rule. The relationship between management and the
employee, or perhaps between management and union (if the employee is a
member of it), is likely to be severed.
To get what you want, give people what they want. Just what do people
want? Physical health, family ties, financial security, spiritual
growth, peace of mind, a successful career, and fame are the basic
needs of people. There is one important yet intangible thing everybody
wants and that is appreciation. Being appreciated and complimented
makes a person feel important. When you feel important, you feel needed
and wanted, and this gives you a whole lot of reason for existence.
Just how do you give somebody the feeling of importance? Say it, act
it; just give it freely, honestly, and wholeheartedly. As literal as it
is, saying how appreciative you are for a favor received, makes the
other person feel important. You may not be able to describe exactly in
words the feeling of importance when you’re in the shoes of the
recipient. But definitely, what you can not describe is real and
priceless.
Pre-empt importance. Give some sort of sign to the other person that
what you want from him, will make him feel important. Let’s take
charity for example. A recipient wants or needs contributions from the
giver. It can either be material or service contribution, or both. Even
before the act itself, the giver somehow expects appreciation from the
recipient and this will give him a boost of importance. Appreciation
may not necessarily be in words. A smile and/or a pat would suffice and
they can come from both giver and recipient. The giver shows his
feeling of being appreciated. The recipient shows his feeling of
appreciation for the gift. Somehow magic or chemistry takes place. It’s
a feeling both parties would enjoy happening many times over.
Are you aware that the feeling of importance, brought about by
compliments and appreciation, is good for your health, mentally and
physically? Whether you are the giver or recipient, it is good for
both. There are medical findings that substantiate health effects
brought about by positive emotions like compliments and appreciation.
Frequent doses of the feeling of importance activate the brain cells
and various harmonies in the body that promote good health. To put it
plainly, the feeling of importance is the antioxidant of life.
Can you think of a better way to nourish other people’s feelings than
to show your concern and appreciation? Well, you can show something
better than appreciation, and that is - a truckload of appreciation.
You know what you and I and everybody else should be doing right now?
We should go out there and show our feeling of appreciation to
everything and everybody. Let’s go!
-Brad Ross
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